Fall kicks off my favorite season full of traditions. I think as a parent I feel SO much pressure to keep every single one of these traditions alive in order to create a life packed full of fun and happy memories in hopes that I end up with adult kids that want to take care of me. I mean, spend Christmas with me.
But sometimes, or wait- actually every day, it feels overwhelming.
Buy the costume, attend the festival, hit up the patch, carve the pumpkin, take all the photos, play in the leaves, make the cider, drink all the PSL’s and then run all the miles to burn those calories, do the turkey trot, buy the candy, do the trick or treating, hide the candy, carve the turkey, DO ALL THE THINGS. And we haven’t even gotten started on the Christmas traditions…
Oh and did I mention that as a boy mom, you also have to add in the 4 days of football practice per week and Saturday games. Try getting anything done with that schedule.
There’s so many traditions jam packed in a 3 month span it begins to feel like just another chore on the list, it sometimes makes my head spin.
This year, with a new baby and lots of new changes in our family I decided to narrow it down. Less is more. I didn’t want to be stressed, and I didn’t want to set myself or the kids up for disappointment. I think sometimes we see other people on social media living these great lives and doing all these fun things that it’s so hard not to get caught up in the comparison game and wanting to do it all. And trust me, I WANT TO DO IT ALL. I can’t help it, I love fall so much.
So I picked the things that mean the most to me (ie. my yearly pumpkin patch photo), things that the kids enjoy the most, and last but certainly not least those that were easily attainable. Key word easy. Setting the bar low over here.
I’m a list person. So I decided to write a list of all the things I wanted to make sure we did. But as I was writing my list, I realized just how very little importance these things actually held. It wasn’t the things, it was the people. I don’t want to go to the pumpkin patch alone, I want to go with people I love because, duh.
So I tossed (or rather pressed delete) the list and decided to take a deep breath and just go with the flow. Even though I love all things Fall, it doesn’t mean I have to make my life crazy trying to get it all done.
The whole “being present” thing has been weighing heavily on my mind these days, as I am navigating the world of three boys. It’s so easy to just go through the motions trying to get everything done and not totally lose your shit that you can miss these little moments that are actually big.
If you take your kids to the pumpkin patch but you’re so stressed out getting there that you’re distracted and tense, then what’s the point? Sometimes it’s not the event that they remember, it’s the conversations, the silly car rides, the feeling that they got.
Trying to do it all is a kill joy. It’s just like that saying “you can’t be everything to everyone”. And life is kinda like this too, and even more so as a single parent. You can’t be everywhere and you can’t do everything, so just be where it matters the most and wing it on the rest.
Less is more, people.